1. Avoiding suffering
2. Seeking pleasure
Two sides to the same coin.
Every human being who wants to tap into their source of motivation can do it by focusing their thoughts and attention on avoiding what they don’t want: suffering. Or seeking what they want: pleasure.
Yes, it is that simple. But there is a big difference between the two strategies.
Focusing on avoiding suffering tends to make us feel bad. It highlights what we have in our life that we don’t want. It gives attention to the problem.
On the contrary, focusing on seeking what we want tends to make us feel good. It provokes thoughts about the solution. It boosts our motivation.
It’s like hiking the same mountain but through two different paths, one very dark and dangerous, the other lighter and more enjoyable.
Here is a simple exercise that will help you to attract what you want into your life!
Take pen&paper and…
– Write at the top what you want
– Write on the front page all the reasons why you want it
– Write at the back of the paper all the reasons why you believe you will get it
Here is mine 🙂
What I want
- Be a great transformative coach.
Reasons why I want it
- Because I want to…
- Make a profound positive impact on people’s lives
- Help people raise their awareness so they can learn how to manage stress and anxiety and develop a calmer, more positive and balanced mind
- Support people in identifying and facing what is holding them back so they can live a life of freedom and purpose
- Guide them through their transformation, so they don’t have to do it on their own
- Help them connect deeply with themselves so that they can cultivate healthier relationships with those around them
- Support them in becoming self-experts so they can gain clarity on what they really want from their life
Reasons why I believe I will get it
- I am dedicating my life to it, with passion, commitment and honesty
- I am constantly and persistently improving my coaching skills
- The more people I help, the more experience I gain, the better I become
- I am playing to my strengths
- I love what I do, and I do what I love
BONUS: Read your paper once a day for 100 days!