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Have you ever caught yourself complaining that things are not fair?

We all have felt a victim of our circumstance, especially during this strange last year.

And have you ever stopped and asked yourself if that helped in any way? Chances are, feeling like a victim just made things worse.

As human beings, we tend to feel good when we own our life situations. When we think, feel and behave like responsible people. When we accept life difficulties and proactively take ownership of them.

Today, I want to offer you an exercise that will help you shift from victim to creator of your reality (example in comments).

1. Write about a situation where you feel a victim of circumstances.

For example: “At the moment, my existence is so boring. I’m stuck at home and cannot travel, meet people or go to live gigs. The lock-down makes my life so plain and uninspiring.”

2. Highlight in what you have written any feelings that you have associated with something external.

For Example: “Boring, stuck, plain, uninspiring.”

3. Rewrite your story as if you bring those feelings into your life experience. Keep on top of mind that almost every situation is changeable and temporary.

For Example: “I am not enjoying my life at the moment. I have many things to be grateful for, but I find it difficult to cope when I have to spend my downtime at home instead of going out, meet people and engage in activities I love.”

4. Rewrite once more your story, making yourself (specifically your mind) responsible for how you feel. Have fun with this one. Mention what you want and set the intention to own the situation and do what is in your hands to get as close as possible to your goal.

For Example: “Whenever I remind myself that I am in lock-down, and I am not allowed to go out, my mind starts creating worst-case scenarios: I will never be able to go on holidays to some exotic location, meet people or attend a concert again. My mind makes me feel frustrated, sad and angry. My mind hopes that if I can feel bad enough, I will do something about it. What I want is to feel happy regardless of what’s going on with the pandemic. So I set the intention to only focus on what I can do (watch travel documentaries, meet people over zoom and listen to recorded live concerts) and let go of thought related to what I cannot do. I know it’s temporary, and things will change, and I want to make the most of every moment of my life.”

What are the actions you intend to take for creating more of what you want?

Love. Simone

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